Episode 7: 10 Things I Hate about You (1999)
Episode 7: 10 Things I Hate about You (1999)
Are some people un-date-able? What does attachment avoidance look like? How should we think about grand romantic gestures? Paul and Eli dissect 10 Things I Hate about You, the 90s attempt to modernize Shakespeare’s eternally controversial “The Taming of the Shrew.”
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Hosted, produced, and edited by Paul Eastwick and Eli Finkel.
0:55: (Eli) Who are the characters and couples?
2:15: (Paul) 1-minute plot recap
3:40: What is our relationship to this movie?
What the movie gets right
6:10: (Eli) Kat is avoidantly attached
Life events change people’s avoidance study by Dr. Fraley
Emotion Focused Couples Therapy review by Dr. Johnson
Intimacy requires vulnerability review by Dr. Murray
12:30: (Paul) Novel and arousing activities lead to better dates
Self-expanding activities promote desire study by Dr. Muise
13:15: (Eli) The “what is beautiful is good” stereotype
Physical attractiveness stereotype review by Dr. Eagly
Misconceptions in the movie
14:55: (Paul) People’s feelings change on a dime in this movie
Paul describes data from his forthcoming book, Bonded by Evolution
19:20: (Eli) What’s the right way to respond to someone’s unwanted romantic attraction?
Rejecting unwanted advances is hard study by Dr. Bohns
24:10: (Paul) Is being a shrew “a thing”?
Stable features of a person barely predict long-term mate value study by Dr. Joel
People barely agree achieve consensus about a person’s long-term mate value study by Paul
Individual therapy causes you to be happier in your relationships review by Dr. Park
“Are we ok with this?”
30:20: (Paul) The movie is misogynistic while trying to be feminist
38:10: (Eli) Power and sexuality imbalance is jarring
39:00: (Eli) Is it ok to relentlessly pursue someone?
Relationship Quotes!
40:50: (Eli) Lyrics to “Can’t Take my Eyes Off of You”
41:45: (Paul) Bianca on her Sketchers and Prada backpack
What do we wish we knew?
42:55: (Eli) What do we do with grand romantic gestures?
Stars (1–5): Both hosts rate the quality of the movie
Rusbults (1–5): Both hosts rate the accuracy of the movie’s ideas about relationships
Music by Andrew Fraker and Sons
Artwork by Katie Keil